So your child is going to college. Commence worry about everything from how to pay for it to will my child be able to adjust to the new environment and work load. Whether you went to college yourself or not, it is a new and different world out there, and chances are unless you are a college professor or have older children already in college, you don’t know what you or your child can expect. How in the world will you know what your student is going through and how to advise them when they call and ask for help?
So you are back for another semester. You have made your New Year’s Resolutions to exercise more, eat less late night pizza, get together with old friends more often, and call your mom at least once a week. But what resolutions are you making that will help you toward your college success? The book Making College Count contains great tips and tricks to help you through a new semester, so get the book today! (It also makes a great high school graduation gift for your friends about to join you as collegians.) But until your book comes in, here are some resolutions you can make to help you on your journey to college success. Read more
A mentor of mine tells the story of when she was in college and how her friends knew exactly what was best for her at one point while she was in college. I thought I would share this story to give you some perspective on the importance of maintaining a school/work/personal life balance.
My mentor, Sally let’s call her, was the quintessential overachieving college student. She served in the student government, held leadership positions is numerous campus organizations, had wonderful grades, and everyone loved her. It is the college experience anyone hopes for. But with this fury of activity taking up most of her time, it seemed that she did not have any time for herself.
Each week it seems like college officials are coming out with new words for parents. We started with “helicopter parents,” who hover about their students even when they don’t need or ask for it. Then we added “blackhawk helicopter parents” to describe the attack style of parents overly protecting their kids.
I have never liked those styles because it seems to negatively affect everyone around the parent and student, including the student himself/herself. Well, now there’s a word for that too. College officials are apparently now calling students “teacups” to describe how they are extremely fragile because they are overprotected. After those fragile, overprotected students are pushed too hard and become burned out, they are then called “crispies.”
Parents, I know you love your children, but there are things you need to let them do for themselves.
- Application Process– Don’t fill out your kids’ college applications for them. Let them know you support them and will provide help like proof reading, but don’t do too much more than that. Read more
Chances are you’ve already purchased/rented your cap and gown and are getting ready to send out your graduation invitations. You may even be planning graduation parties and are looking forward to some graduation gifts. Or you may be the friend of a soon-to-be graduate. You could be the one receiving the graduation invitation, throwing the graduation party or the one having to purchase the graduation gifts.
Don’t wait until it’s too late to start looking for a good high school graduation gift for the high school senior in your life. Now is the time to begin thinking who you will be giving high school graduation gifts to. As I talked about in the last post, making a list now may save you some heartache later.
If you start early, you won’t make the mistake of getting your high school graduate a bad gift. You don’t want to be the person who gives the photo album (we have digital cameras and therefore have digital photo albums—your gift will swiftly tossed into the trash), a laundry bag, or a book designed for children that won’t help us any in our next step (and we will probably get a couple of copies of this one, so you are not alone if you have made this mistake before).
Making College Count is not outdated (the new version is out now) as a photo album may be, is useful, but less boring than a laundry bag, and infinitely more valuable than a children’s book. Making College Count makes a great high school graduation gift because it provides tips and tricks for achieving college success.
So this year, don’t wait until the last minute to make the list of who you need to get high school graduation gifts for, and while you are at it, get them something that will help them in college and beyond—Making College Count.
You’ve worked hard to achieve college success and now it is time to start working on finding permanent employment. The job interview goes well. You feel like you made a connection with the interviewer. But then, on your way out, you notice she has six more interviews scheduled after yours. How will she possibly remember you five hours later, or the next day when she decides whom to invite back for the second round? What can you do to help her remember the positive aspects of your interview?
Maybe you’re a freshman with no idea where your academic interests lie. Or a sophomore planning to change majors. Or a junior thinking about dropping some classes because they cut into practice time for your new band. Or a senior with a serious case of indecision. Whatever your situation, you may be considering adding a fifth year to your program.
Freshman year is over and it is time to begin the second year of college. Little do you know, but you are at a fork in the road. As the saying goes, “if you see a fork in the road…take it!” So what if you still don’t have the hang of college or did not get great grades in your freshman year. Maybe you do have the hang of classes, but that’s all you did and now you need to start getting involved to make yourself competitive for internships and eventually, jobs. It’s not too late. Employers and graduate schools are looking for upward trends, so set a goal to do better this year than you did last year.