Archive for Parent’s Corner

College Parents Should Keep a Healthy Distance

Each week it seems like college officials are coming out with new words for parents. We started with “helicopter parents,” who hover about their students even when they don’t need or ask for it. Then we added “blackhawk helicopter parents” to describe the attack style of parents overly protecting their kids.

 

I have never liked those styles because it seems to negatively affect everyone around the parent and student, including the student himself/herself. Well, now there’s a word for that too. College officials are apparently now calling students “teacups” to describe how they are extremely fragile because they are overprotected. After those fragile, overprotected students are pushed too hard and become burned out, they are then called “crispies.”

 

Parents, I know you love your children, but there are things you need to let them do for themselves.

  • Application Process– Don’t fill out your kids’ college applications for them. Let them know you support them and will provide help like proof reading, but don’t do too much more than that. Read more

Not Again Part 2

Yesterday we began a series of the top five gifts to give during the high school graduation gift season.  Don’t give a gift that the student will get tons of, give something original and helpful!

Here are ideas 3 through 5 I came up with as things I would have liked getting as a high school graduation gift. Read more

Not Again Part 1

We are swiftly approaching the high school graduation gift season. And while students all secretly hope for mounds of cash to be thrown their way by relatives and family friends, those same relatives and family friends are wondering if the student will know if they re-gifted that photo album they never used after receiving last Christmas.

While students will always appreciate any gift in recognition of this important time of transition in their lives, on behalf of those students around the nation, please put some thought into the gift-giving this year. Read more

Do a Non-Traditional College Visit Part Five

Sometimes doing a traditional campus tour and sitting in on a class is just not enough to find out all you can about a school you might be attending for four years of your life. This series provides tips for parents and students to make the most of their campus visits.

 

There will be time at college that you will not spend in class or at the library studying. Free time is a great time to de-stress and do things you enjoy. So it is obvious that you should find out if you can still participate in things you enjoy while at college. When on a college visit, explore the campus and community to see if it offers what you want out of your out-of-class activities. Do you like to hike? It might be worthwhile to find out if there are opportunities to do so with other students near campus. Have you always dreamed of working at a college radio station? You better check to see if they have one. Play the piano, but don’t want to be a music major in college? See if there are piano practice areas on campus that non-music majors can use. You get the idea. Maintaining and enjoyable lifestyle is a priority for keeping your sanity in college, and it provides great study breaks. But if there are things you know you can’t live without, you better make sure that the college you attend has them.

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Do a Non-Traditional College Visit Part Four

What can you do other than tour campus and sit in on a class to help you make the most out of your college visit? This series explores how to make your college visit non-traditional.

 

Do you love the idea of warmer temps and no snow during winter? Then you may think that a school in Florida is for you. But don’t forget that you have to deal with the heat and humidity of August if you go there, too. You may want to consider visiting campus at the most extreme that the weather can get, whether that be hot or cold, rainy or windy. If you are miserable touring, then you will probably be miserable as a student there, walking to and from class each day. The weather is something to consider when you are choosing a college, and testing it out while on your college visit can be a good idea.

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Do a Non-Traditional College Visit Part Three

Continuing our series of ways to increase the value of your campus visit, here is part three of how to make the most of your college visit, the non-traditional way.

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Do a Non-Traditional College Visit Part Two

Monday I went over the importance of an overnight visit in a campus dormitory (if possible) and a trip to the campus dining hall as some non-traditional ways to enhance your college visit. But don’t leave campus without doing the things below too! Here is part two of how to make the most of your college visit, the non-traditional way.

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Do a Non-Traditional College Visit Part One

For most students and parents of college-bound students, a college visit includes going on the college coordinated campus tour with other prospective students, sitting in on a class, and talking to an admissions counselor about admissions requirements, scholarships, and financial aid. Then you leave campus and evaluate your options.

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In College, Attitude Is Everything

When I was younger, my mom always told me that “attitude is everything.” I didn’t like it when she said that because it was her not-so-subtle way of telling me I was out of line. But as I have gotten older, I now realize just how true that statement is. One of the most amazing things I have observed in life is that those who have a good outlook on things seem to be pretty happy. Sure, not everything is going their way, but they are happy about the stuff that is and are trying to make changes for the better every day. And, on the other hand, those I see who think that everything “sucks” (read with a giant sigh directed toward the world in general) are usually right. So what’s the difference between the satisfied person and the Debbie Downer? Attitude.

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Open the Checkbook—It’s Time to Join Campus Organizations

Picture with me a not-so-unimaginable scenario. Your caller ID tells you that your college-age son or daughter is calling. You are ecstatic because he or she does not always remember to call as often as you would like. But after the little niceties that begin your conversation, your college student asks you for money. It’s time to join campus organizations and they need a wad of cash to cover all the dues. Read more