Each week it seems like college officials are coming out with new words for parents. We started with “helicopter parents,” who hover about their students even when they don’t need or ask for it. Then we added “blackhawk helicopter parents” to describe the attack style of parents overly protecting their kids.
I have never liked those styles because it seems to negatively affect everyone around the parent and student, including the student himself/herself. Well, now there’s a word for that too. College officials are apparently now calling students “teacups” to describe how they are extremely fragile because they are overprotected. After those fragile, overprotected students are pushed too hard and become burned out, they are then called “crispies.”
Parents, I know you love your children, but there are things you need to let them do for themselves.
- Application Process– Don’t fill out your kids’ college applications for them. Let them know you support them and will provide help like proof reading, but don’t do too much more than that. Read more
Yesterday we began a series of the top five gifts to give during the high school graduation gift season. Don’t give a gift that the student will get tons of, give something original and helpful!
Here are ideas 3 through 5 I came up with as things I would have liked getting as a high school graduation gift. Read more
We are swiftly approaching the high school graduation gift season. And while students all secretly hope for mounds of cash to be thrown their way by relatives and family friends, those same relatives and family friends are wondering if the student will know if they re-gifted that photo album they never used after receiving last Christmas.
While students will always appreciate any gift in recognition of this important time of transition in their lives, on behalf of those students around the nation, please put some thought into the gift-giving this year. Read more
When I was younger, my mom always told me that “attitude is everything.” I didn’t like it when she said that because it was her not-so-subtle way of telling me I was out of line. But as I have gotten older, I now realize just how true that statement is. One of the most amazing things I have observed in life is that those who have a good outlook on things seem to be pretty happy. Sure, not everything is going their way, but they are happy about the stuff that is and are trying to make changes for the better every day. And, on the other hand, those I see who think that everything “sucks” (read with a giant sigh directed toward the world in general) are usually right. So what’s the difference between the satisfied person and the Debbie Downer? Attitude.
Picture with me a not-so-unimaginable scenario. Your caller ID tells you that your college-age son or daughter is calling. You are ecstatic because he or she does not always remember to call as often as you would like. But after the little niceties that begin your conversation, your college student asks you for money. It’s time to join campus organizations and they need a wad of cash to cover all the dues. Read more